Addie--the thing that makes this so compellingis that it is such genuine personal experience. I agree many women like to be admired by both sexes (for very different reasons) but there are plenty like you, who do not regard their bodies as a library book free for anyone to take out and look thru. This winter my wife and I went to a resort in Mexico before the pandemic. It was a sea of young women with revealing bikinis. Many had already had breast enlargement surgery. Over hearing conversations revealed concen with their skin, drinking, guys and sex. You can only be immersed in a few things in life. These early choices exclude everything else one might see as of value in life.