Laura, this is fabulous! You are brave as well as right in everything you say. I am a psychiatrist but I no longer work due to very difficult physical problems. These have led to depression. I just tell people. But even some colleagues are tone deaf when I am struggling. I am also impressed you know about Goffman. He has much to teach us. Check out my recent piece about mental pain:https://elemental.medium.com/why-dont-we-take-mental-pain-as-seriously-as-we-take-physical-pain-851b7f884ad6

Let me know what you think.