This is a lovely story, Dan. I want to add a few things. When people are "listening" to your recitation of troubles, even stage four cancer, they are just waiting their turn to talk. They are not really listening. Don't be that person. Make yourself be quiet for a moment. Don't say something planned like "I hear you" (sorry, Dan). Wait for even the simplest things to come to mind. even "I am so sorry." It is good to think about such things in advance so you are not caught off guard. Think of specific things you can offer like runs to the store, dog-sitting, etc. Not just "anything I can do" as the person doesn't really know what you are willing or able to do. Second, be curious. Ask what happened, when did you find out about whatever it is, etc. How is your wife/husband/partner/child doing? You'll see that things unfold naturally. Don't be rushed. Take a breath. And never, never offer unsolicited advice. It is unnecessary, unhelpful, and really makes people feel bad because it is only for you.